Posts By: Andrea Paterson

A Newborn Stranger: Caroline’s Story

Caroline shares her story of learning to build a relationship with her infant son. Not every mom experiences a rush of love and connection at the moment of birth. Caroline illustrates beautifully that sometimes it takes time to build a relationship, and that is completely okay! When I was pregnant, all I wanted was to… Read more »

We’re In This Together: Karen

This wasn’t how I thought it would be… When I was fifteen years old, I woke up one morning with intense upper back pain.  Within half an hour, I’d lost feeling from the chest down. Thus began a whirlwind race to the hospital and a chaotic time of what felt like thousands of tests and… Read more »

We’re In This Together: Clare and Jane

During the two years after my daughter was born, as I spiraled deeper and deeper into depression and anxiety I refused to seek help. I was terrified, lonely and felt I didn’t deserve it. I had everything I wanted- a fantastic, supportive husband and a beautiful “easy” baby who I’d longed for. All that was… Read more »

Come Sing a Song for The Mothers

Holidays can be hard. The big ones and the smaller ones. They’re hard because we’re expected to celebrate and be joyful and sometimes that joy is hard to access. Sometimes the thing we’re supposed to celebrate isn’t accessible to us. I find that it helps me to reframe holidays as a time for ceremony rather… Read more »

We’re In This Together: Chrissy and Dora

When I started writing my story for ‘We’re in This Together’, I began with the early days. I wrote about the trauma and confusion of those dark times; my sadness about not being the kind of mom I wanted to be; my heartbreaking inability to breastfeed; the unrelenting feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy; how I… Read more »